tightened network defaults, squashed bugs

Security:
- Bind HTTP gateway to 127.0.0.1 by default; add --bind for LAN opt-in
- Restrict Reticulum mesh surface to GET /api/sites only (CSRF cannot
  authenticate mesh callers, so gate by whitelist)
- Cap request body size at 16 MiB to prevent memory DoS
- Redact /bookmark query strings from request logs so the bookmark token
  and URLs do not land in stdout / docker / journal logs
- Tighten FTS5 sanitizer: strip colon, drop AND/OR/NOT/NEAR operator words
- Expand .dockerignore; document trust model in README

Features:
- Add sharing mode toggle (share everything except private vs share only
  public-tagged) with /share/preview so users can see what subscribers
  would receive before enabling sharing

Bugs:
- handle_export() crashed on every call (missing query kwarg)
- Dead float16 decompression branch in embeddings.py silently corrupted
  the HNSW index when compress_embeddings was on
- GATEWAY_PORT staleness: --port and find_available_port had no effect
  on the actual bind
- semantic_search default mismatched between db.py ("1") and the rest of
  the app ("0"), causing embeddings to be generated when the UI said off
- Connection pool returned connections with uncommitted transactions to
  the next consumer
- Gateway POST body decode 502'd on non-UTF-8 input
- ensure_rns_config clobbered user-edited ~/.reticulum/config; now only
  rewrites files it authored (sentinel-tagged)

.dockerignore

@@ -1,5 +1,15 @@
 __pycache__/
+**/__pycache__/
+*.pyc
 index.db*
+index.hnsw
 tinyweb_identity
 .git/
+.gitignore
 *.md
+.env
+.env.*
+.venv/
+venv/
+models/
+.DS_Store